Archive for October 2025
When Love Was Missing, We Learned to Blame Ourselves
Self-Criticism as a Trauma Memory This post explores how neglect and abandonment in childhood can become the root of high self-criticism in adulthood. Restoring self-esteem, dignity, and confidence begins with realizing that many of our thoughts about ourselves are actually memories of traumatic neglect and abandonment. Seeing the Inner Critic as a Memory, Not a…
Read MoreWhy Reciprocity Matters: Growing the Capacity for Love in a Hurting World
Over Dependence: The Cost of Disowning the Self When love was modeled through enmeshment or boundary violations, we may have learned to earn care by abandoning ourselves.Signs of over dependence include:• Abandoning our needs to please or rescue others• Experiencing disagreement as dangerous• Collapsing identity into one relationship• Confusing approval with love• Losing sight of…
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